Choices Are Made...
By: Connie J..., June 2, 2025
...every single day of your life - beginning when you wake up. Are you a snooze button fiend; or do you get up as soon as (or even before) that alarm goes off??! Do you do a healthy breakfast, or just glug down some coffee, and a muffin? These are all choices that we make, usually, without much thought.
There are, also, major choices we make EVERY day. Such as:
- are we going to choose kindness?
- are we going to let "little" things bug us?
- how are we going to speak to OURSELVES??!
- are we going to let someone else's bad mood/choices ruin OUR day?
You see, it's NOT what happens to you, that has the biggest affect on you - it's what YOU choose to do, NEXT.
I believe this is where much of the disconnect from ourselves happens. We either forget, or many don't even realize the plethora of choices we have, no matter how big or small our situation may be.
I've used the rudder on a ship, as an example, before. That LITTLE apparatus makes ALL the difference on the ship's trajectory. History has demonstrated how an over/undercorrection can change so much.
The bottom-line I want you to take from all this, is this - YOU HAVE CHOICES. MAKE THEM.
We would LOVE to hear any insight you might have. Please contact the ministry via this website; or email us at Ozer Ministries, Inc - ozerministries@att.net; or my email - Connie J... - beamererin@yahoo.com. Have a good day, and be safe!!! #ENDtheSILENCEofVIOLENCE #isityou #domesticviolenceiseverywhere #youarenotalone #doyouknow
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