Do you know that if you get into that kind of "backpedaling" conversation, it could go on for hours, or days, or even decades??! I was inspired to write this particular post, by a recent conversation with a Friend. He and I were discussing a previous conversation that sort of came to an impasse, when he responded with, "Well, yeah, but..."; and proceeded to continue arguing his point. I looked at him, and said, "Well - we could 'well, yeah, but' until two weeks from next Thursday; and I don't believe either one of us would change the other person's response/feelings/etc." He went on to work, and we met up about an hour later. In that time, I had been thinking over our conversation - the bottom-line, was that neither one of us was "wrong"; but his feelings had gotten hurt. I had stood firm on what I had said; buuuuuut - recalled something I had read, recently, about taking responsibility for hurting someone, even when you aren't wrong. The metaphor goes something like this: - you have a glass you really like - someone comes in, and accidentally bumps it off the counter, and it shatters - you are hurt inside your heart - that glass was a special gift from someone you love very much - they try to "explain away" your hurt, by saying, over and over, I didn't mean to break your glass - BUT, that really doesn't make you feel ANY better, does it??! (Their reaction to your reaction can really mess up relationships, eh??!) - they, then, say just these 4 simple words, "I broke the glass" - taking accountability for the situation; thereby, acknowledging your feelings - it doesn't change a thing, that glass ain't coming back; but the feelings can now begin to heal He and I have now set up that "code" for conversations, where he feels I should apologize for something I said - but, I'm wondering why I should apologize, when I don't believe I did anything wrong - impasse. Honestly, it's usually me that opens my mouth more often, than not...  Sound familiar? I believe EVERYONE has those conversations, that reach an impasse - there is still a way to complete them, without ANYONE feeling steamrolled. We would LOVE to hear any insight you might have. Please contact the ministry via this website; or email us at Ozer Ministries, Inc - ozerministries@att.net ; or my email - Connie J... - beamererin@yahoo.com . Have a good day, and be safe!!! #ENDtheSILENCEofVIOLENCE #isityou #domesticviolenceiseverywhere #youarenotalone #doyouknow

I am a people pleasing, "helpful at my own expense" kinda person - well, at least I used to be. One of my favorite metaphors to share with people, is, "You cannot pour from an empty cup." I have FINALLY learned that my own self-care is CRUCIAL TO my abilities to help ANYONE else. If I'm not adding self-care into my (at the VERY least, one-to-two-times-a-week) daily routine, my helpfulness is limited. The focus is usually sooooo much on anyone and everyone else's needs; that the helper neglects themselves - adding a whole new set of internal, sometimes external, issues to the mix. I, personally, believe this is where many people get off track; thereby, perpetuating the cycle of Domestic Violence, generationally. Been there - breaking that curse!!! Are you codependent? Does any of this sound familiar? It is NEVER too late!!! I encourage you to do a little self-assessment and self-reflection, periodically. We would LOVE to hear any insight you might have. Please contact the ministry via this website; or email us at Ozer Ministries, Inc - ozerministries@att.net ; or my email - Connie J... - beamererin@yahoo.com . Have a good day, and be safe!!! #ENDtheSILENCEofVIOLENCE #isityou #domesticviolenceiseverywhere #youarenotalone #doyouknow

Do you know what your passion is? That motivation that gets you right in the feels??! It stokes that fire in your belly, and drives you? Though I am unable to commit as much time as I would like, writing IS my passion. Sharing the wisdom I have acquired over my nearly 33 years in my "Healing Process"; AND my nearly 64 years, on the planet. When I am writing, and my thoughts come together - bam, I feel so complete in that moment. Like this is what I was born to do. Then, I have moments where I struggle to form a sentence - now, does that make writing any less of my passion? I don't think so - it just reminds me how human I am...lol. As with everything in life, your passion moves in waves - keep this in mind. I see the iceberg utilized, a lot, when someone is describing another's thought-process. There is so much more going on, under the surface, than we will probably ever know. For example - I have many titles, or Blog topics, in the Notes, on my phone. Trust me, when I say my brain is ALWAYS going - sometimes, I do struggle to get my posts completed in a timely manner - but I usually do. It's NOT because I haven't been working on anything - it's because my BRAIN is working on EVERYTHING!!! But, I digress...I guess you could say that's maybe a "down side" of having a passion for something? That obsession. But, in life, it is the choices we make, that make ALL the difference. I could let it get me down, that I am not where I want to be, in my "writing career" - I choose to embrace each day as it comes; both good and bad, and move on through it. Every day, YOU have the same opportunities I do - to make the choices to stoke that fire, within. If you're not where you want to be, in life - what changes do you need to make to begin that quest to YOUR passion? These, and others, are some important questions you might want to begin asking yourself. I challenge you...  Thank you, have a good day and be safe... #beaware #growinto2025 ##domesticviolenceiseverywhere #ENDtheSILENCEofVIOLENCE #isityou everybodyknowsomebody #besafe ***October is Domestic Violence Awareness Month. Please share this post, no matter what month it is, to help get the word out. The Victim has to make the choice - but, "What If..." they read something you sent them, and it just "clicks"?*** *I would love the opportunity to share YOUR ideas in a Blog post. Please send them to Connie J... - beamererin@yahoo.com ; or through Ozer email, ozerministries@att.net .

...for an anxiety episode; while simultaneously keeping one from happening. I work retail with a girl, let's call her "Buffy". Each day, as she arrives, she will ask me, "Has it been busy?" Seems innocent enough, right? However, one day it hit me that she needed to assess the environment, as she came in the door. Just one of those "random epiphanies". "Buffy" is one of my many friends that suffers from anxiety - she even took some time off, a few months ago, to try and get it under control. It got me thinking about times when I feel anxious. Growing up, in a Domestic Violence situation, as I did - I learned EARLY ON, that my awareness of the environment around me, and the need/ability to walk gently on those proverbial eggshells could keep the peace, for at least a little while. The caveat was, you never knew just what was going to set my Father off. Though I would love share "my theory" with "Buffy"; I don't feel compelled to, yet. Usually, that means it's time for ME to learn a new "life-lesson". Some questions I have been asking myself, are: 1 - Do I know my "why" for this particular chain of thoughts? This sort've leads right into... 2 - What DO I have control over, in my life; and is there something I feel is particularly OUT of my control? Honestly, I can think of several situations, right off the top of my head. Well - I see that I have some internal work to do - SURPRISE!!! I HAVE been feeling some anxiety, lately, when I face certain situations; and I guess it's time they were dealt with. This is what living is really about, though, isn't it? Learning "Your Whys", and dealing with them, as they come up. Doesn't this seem SO MUCH BETTER than being controlled by the anxiety if you DON'T deal with it!!! Whew!!! I sure think so!!! If this gave you any "random epiphanies", do you think it's time for YOU to ask YOUR whys??! Maybe be able to thwart some of your anxiety? I would love to hear your insight on my thoughts...  Thank you, have a good day and be safe... #beaware #growinto2025 ##domesticviolenceiseverywhere #ENDtheSILENCEofVIOLENCE #isityou everybodyknowsomebody #besafe ***October is Domestic Violence Awareness Month. Please share this post, no matter what month it is, to help get the word out. The Victim has to make the choice - but, "What If..." they read something you sent them, and it just "clicks"?*** *I would love the opportunity to share YOUR ideas in a Blog post. Please send them to Connie J... - beamererin@yahoo.com ; or through Ozer email, ozerministries@att.net .

..."handholds", as you climb out of the "Old Dry Well"; or ANY "hole of life", in which you may find yourself trapped. Though we may find ourselves caught up in "garbage situations", throughout our lives; we have a HUGE opportunity. We can either cave to the negativity, and just roll over and take what's dealt to us - OR, we can, through a positive, determined attitude, change the entire trajectory of our thought process; thereby changing our entire lives.  By suggesting positivity; I am in no way negating the difficulty of your day-to-day life. It doesn't change the fact that your situation IS difficult - it gives you those "handholds" I spoke about earlier. You are only STUCK in that hole, if you choose to not utilize them. Even if you DUG that hole; positivity CAN assist you in getting out. So...I ask you, are you going to choose positivity to get yourself out of WHATEVER hole, you happen to be stuck in??! Orrrrr...are you going to stay there, awhile longer? What if that hole gets deeper? Compared to then, I would think it would be.simpler, now, right??! Remember, it's YOUR choice... Thank you, have a good day and be safe... #beaware #growinto2025 ##domesticviolenceiseverywhere #ENDtheSILENCEofVIOLENCE #isityou everybodyknowsomebody #besafe ***October is Domestic Violence Awareness Month. Please share this post, no matter what month it is, to help get the word out. The Victim has to make the choice - but, "What If..." they read something you sent them, and it just "clicks"?*** *I would love the opportunity to share YOUR ideas in a Blog post. Please send them to Connie J... - beamererin@yahoo.com ; or through Ozer email, ozerministries@att.net .