What is Your "Identity"?
By: Connie J..., October 27, 2025
In recent years, much of the world's focus has been on how people are identifying themselves. I'm not going to get into pronouns, etc; but every person on earth "Identifies" as something - whether they realize it, or not!!!
For over half of my life, I "identified" as a Victim of Sexual Abuse; then as a Victim of Domestic Violence. In this second half of my life, thus-far, I have CHOSEN to identify as a Survivor of both of those, and a grateful person; while also, a writer.
None of this has just happened, either. There has been a good bit of struggle - self-loathing, hatred for many people around me, feeling God had abandoned me, etc.
Not an easy path. Choices had to be made - sometimes, by the second!!! But, my first choice in the direction of positive, from negative (though still surrounded by that negative), was my FIRST step towards my healing proces; and this process is on-going.
I will re-establish my identity - which morphs into my character - every day, for the rest of my life.
Can you relate?
We would LOVE to hear YOUR feedback and insight. Please contact the ministry via this website; or email us at Ozer Ministries, Inc - ozerministries@att.net; or my email - Connie J... - beamererin@yahoo.com. Have a good day, and be safe!!! #ENDtheSILENCEofVIOLENCE #isityou #domesticviolenceiseverywhere #youarenotalone #doyouknow #identity
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