We Are Losing It...

 By: Connie J..., May 6, 2024

...EVERY day. Our "human-ness"; our ability to utilize our empathy and compassion. Many of us are so busy making ourselves crazy trying to prove we're "right".

So many are forgetting about that NEEDED human connection; that we're NOT here alone. We, some much to their chagrin, need each other - for survival.

I'm not saying anything about intimate relationships - although, many of those are suffering, including friendships.

Example: I had a "one and done" friend, that I considered my "best friend". We seemed to connect on such a deep level; and I was so excited because I had finally found a "grown-up best friend".

Well, fast-forward 8-plus years - that relationship had, basically, withstood a major moment of honesty from me (although I did almost lose this friend over it, then). After that, I noticed I was "making myself smaller", in order to feel "needed". NOT a healthy existence, for anyone. I say, one good thing to come out of our Covid experience, was for me to have time to do some real work and contemplation.

I just sort of eased out of it. Had I tried to "talk it out" with them, I would probably still be there, with "myself" getting smaller and smaller. I don't hate this person; but over 8-plus years, and there's no real growth or any kind of change in a person, it makes me sad. I will always love them, and I do wish them well - just "not at my table", so to speak.

I "rollercoastered" a bit, after this experience; but I have gotten healthier, and do reach out to people. I also know I have to be aware of my "needy-people-pleaser-self''s existence.

Does any of this sound a "little too familiar" to you? Are you involved in any relationships in which you are unable to utilize your empathy and compassion in healthy ways, or are YOU "making yourself smaller"? I challenge you to take an inventory of yourself, and find out; see if you're "losing it"...

Thank you, and have a good day, and be safe... #ENDtheSILENCEofVIOLENCE #dviseverywhere #domesticviolence #growin2024 #awareness #protectyourself #besafe


*October is Domestic Violence Awareness Month. Please share this post, no matter what month it is, to help get the word out. The Victim has to make the choice - but, "What If..." they read something you sent them, and it just "clicks"?

*I would love the opportunity to share YOUR ideas in a Blog post. Please send them to Connie J... - beamererin@yahoo.com; or through Ozer email, ozerministries@att.net.



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