On ANY Given Day...
By: Connie J..., December 2, 2024
...I can EASILY make 15-20 people angry - just by my presence in their lives, simply by doing my job.
However, I CANNOT focus on that; or let THEM determine what kind of day I'm going to have.
My ultimate goal, for EVERY day, is to reach that ONE person, wherever they are, and give them a glimmer of hope; and I usually am blessed to achieve this goal, ALMOST every day.
Most of the time, it's with a glance, or a simple "Hello", "How are you?", etc. I try to make sure I NOTICE people.
Now, my batting average is NOT perfect, because I'm "all human and stuff"; but I DO try.
That's all we can do - is try. I truly believe that's all that is expected of us - to genuinely put in that effort. Not gonna lie, it DOES feel good, when it's achieved; but that's NOT the goal. It is to be true to who I AM. MY character.
I always check myself, especially when am challenged regarding something I've said or done, "Can I look myself in the eye, in my mirror?" If I can - I'm being true to myself; if I DO feel a "check" - I investigate further, and apologize, if necessary.
Again, it's doing what we CAN do, and not stressing about what we can't. Be true to our character. I think that is the bottom line, personally. I challenge you to utilize YOUR mirror, a little more frequently...
Thank you, have a good day and be safe... #beaware #growinto2025 ##domesticviolenceiseverywhere #ENDtheSILENCEofVIOLENCE #isityou
#everybodyknowsomebody #besafe
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