What If...
By: Connie J..., November 3, 2022
...my daughter/son gets involved with a person that acts just like the person I'M with?
...they're not willing to listen to me, anymore than I was willing, to anyone else?
...things get too hard for them to handle - what can I say, to help them see?
...I DO NOT open my mouth, at least, and things get really ugly? Can I live with that?
...I do take the chance to speak, and they separate from me - how will I handle that?
...I could be the one to break the "generational curse" in my family?
Have a good day, and be safe... #oneinfour #ithappenstomentoo #dviseverywhere #domesticviolence
*October is Domestic Violence Awareness Month. Please share this post, no matter what month it is, to help get the word out. The Victim has to make the choice - but, "What If..." they read something you sent them, and it just "clicks"?
*I share a "What If..." post, on the first post of every month, and I would love the opportunity to share YOUR "what ifs".
Please send your "What If..." ideas to Connie J... - beamererin@yahoo.com; or through Ozer Ministries, at the website or email, ozerministries@att.net.
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