Deciding Who You...
By: Connie J..., January 9, 2026
...no longer want to be, is sometimes easier, than deciding who you WANT to be.
I got this idea from a meme on Facebook, that said, "I have had MANY people in my life teach me who I do NOT want to be".
As Mr Miyagi told Daniel in Karate Kid, during the bonsai lesson - "close eyes, picture what you want your tree to look like. Now open your eyes, and trim away all you don't want your tree to be".
It's a starting point - usually, with a lot less "fuzzy stuff" - your own, or other people's expectations, etc. A different path for your future to take. Anticipation of something new and different.
A motivational fear of the unknown; and it literally can be what you make it, by breaking old patterns.
Have you ever thought about it? Is it time to start it??!
Remember, doing it for yourself is a good thing. That's when change "sticks better".
We would LOVE to hear any insight you might have. Please contact the ministry via this website; or email us at Ozer Ministries, Inc - ozerministries@att.net; or my email - Connie J... - beamererin@yahoo.com. Have a good day, and be safe!!! #ENDtheSILENCEofVIOLENCE #isityou #domesticviolenceiseverywhere #youarenotalone #doyouknow
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