Change is One...
By: Connie J..., June 30, 2025
...of the few "Constants" in life. Are YOU changing and evolving?
I've been in relationships with people, in the past, that when I attempted to encourage them to grow, as a person, I was told, "That's just the way I am!"; and they acted offended that I would even expect any kind of change or growth out of them.
Whaaaaaaaat??!
Growth and change are life!!! Granted, not everyone's FAVORITE part; but still!!!
I have not purposely walked away from many relationships in my life - I've always kind of been a "clinger" (not proud, but honest).
Over the last seven-ish years, I have walked away from several relationships, where people weren't willing to even look at some kind of change or growth.
I'm not saying I am "all-knowing" on what people need in their lives; but when I know you for several years, at least, and you've not grown, or changed, AT ALL...well, choices must be made. To either stay engaged, if you feel you must; or to break away, and move on with your own growth and changes.
I'm not a hater, I wish them all the best - heard the phrase once, "I still want you to eat; just not at my table."
Have you ever had to make hard decisions regarding people not being willing to grow?
We would LOVE to hear any insight you might have. Please contact the ministry via this website; or email us at Ozer Ministries, Inc - ozerministries@att.net; or my email - Connie J... - beamererin@yahoo.com. Have a good day, and be safe!!! #ENDtheSILENCEofVIOLENCE #isityou #domesticviolenceiseverywhere #youarenotalone #doyouknow
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