"No Be There..."
By: Connie J..., August 24, 2023
These are the words Mr Miyagi spoke to Daniel LaRusso in “The Karate Kid”, when teaching him the “Drum Technique”
I was recently approached by a high school friend, whose husband is a sexual predator. We got together, years ago, and though she was not active on Social Media, she said her husband was, and I gave her my info.
What was the harm, right? I knew him, as she dated him all through high school; and we doubled for one of our Proms.
Well, I neglected to remember, blocked the memories, or whatever; but the night after she and I got together, her husband contacted me, and proceeded to sext me.
I initially responded, as a well-groomed Victim would. IMMEDIATELY, the old shaming memories came flooding back!!! I ended the conversation; removed, blocked, deleted, etc.
But, all these years later, the feeling of shame has still been clouding my life. I responded!!! HOW could I have done that to my friend??!
WAIT A MINUTE!!! I am not the perpetrator, here!!! As soon as I realized what was happening, I stopped it from going ANY further!!!
Sometimes, that is all you can do – move on from situations you end up in; and remember next time, “No be there!!!”
Shame is so easy to pick up and carry. It’s handle us just sticking up, and you don’t even have to miss a step, to grab it. It only gets heavier, the longer you tote it. Take responsibility for any part you may have had in a situation; AND MOVE ON!!! Drop that sucker, as soon as you can!!!
Aaaaand remember, “No Be There!!!”.
Thank you, have a good day, and be safe… #oneinfour #ithappenstomentoo #dviseverywhere #domesticviolence
*October is Domestic Violence Awareness Month. Please share this post, no matter what month it is, to help get the word out. The Victim has to make the choice – but, “What If…” they read something you sent them, and it just “clicks”?
*I share a “What If…” post, once a month, and I would love the opportunity to share YOUR “what ifs”. Please send your “What If…” ideas to Connie J… – beamererin@yahoo.com; or through Ozer – ozerministries@att.net.
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