Part of My "Patchwork Quilt of Life"
By: Connie J..., February 26, 2024
Part of My "Patchwork Quilt of Life"
Was talking to a friend, the other day, and mentioned that she's a part of my story - that got me thinking about my "patchwork quilt of life".
In the minimum 62 patches, thus far - many of them are just different shades of 1 color, per square - from black to blue, red to purple. Those were my younger days - when I was just existing, before I knew I could make a difference in my own life.
Some have pictures of people that were there, some are blank. Many have a very "busy" design, as I got older. Had to keep moving, and there are many people that I am grateful to have been there for me.
As my life has "leveled out", so to speak, there were squares created by every new "milestone" - sometimes, several per year. For example, when I began my healing process, 9/11, the Derailment, my surgeries, etc.
They are all a part of me, and who I have become - and am ever evolving into.
Take a moment, or two - who has been a part of your "Patchwork Quilt of Life". Have you ever been able to tell them thank you? Gratitude is a key element in the healing process.
Thank you, and have a good day, and be safe... #ENDtheSILENCEofVIOLENCE #dviseverywhere #domesticviolence #growin2024 #awareness #protectyourself #besafe
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