Jun. 28, 2021

Regarding Boundaries... (Connie J...)

If you think about it, there are literally hundreds of different types of physical "boundaries" - brick walls, barbed-wire or electric fences, moats, high walls, low walls, trees and shrubbery, etc.

There are as many figurative - emotional, etc, boundaries, also. These are primarily to protect your "heart" from getting hurt.

In a Domestic Violence situation, these can possibly help you survive it, mentally. I've heard many people say the physical wounds are actually "easier" to heal from.

But, if you have been able to remove yourself from your abusive situation - DV, or other type - what then?

What protected you, then, only weighs you down as you progress in your healing process. I understand how easy it is to just keep relying on them - but are they really necessary; or are they hindering any possible growth?

Is it time to regroup, and adapt your boundaries to the life you're living, and growing into, now. Boundaries ARE still important; like respect - both from others, and yourself. The ability to say the word NO, if and when you need to.

I read somewhere, "You don't owe anyone an interaction". This screamed volumes to me. It's ok to be by yourself. Your being with others should be because you want to be with them, as much as they want to be with you.

What sort of boundaries do you have? Are they healthy; or are you "Armoring Up" (as Brene' Brown says), to protect yourself?

Have a good day, and be safe... #ENDtheSILENCEofVIOLENCE www.ozerministriesinc.com #walkinTHEIRshoes #EtSoV

*October is Domestic Violence Awareness Month. Please share this, no matter what month it is, to help get the word out. The Victim has to make the choice - but, "What If..." they read something you sent them, that makes the difference? #walkinTHEIRshoes 

*I will be sharing a "What If..." post on the first Monday, of every month. I would love to share YOUR "what ifs". Please send your "What If..." ideas to Connie J... - beamererin@yahoo.com; or through Ozer, at the website or email, ozerministries@att.net.