Do You Feel Shame??! (Connie J...)
If you are in a Domestic Violence situation, do you feel ashamed of it?
There has been a good bit of discussion, lately about the question, "Why didn't they just leave?" Now, you and I both know that should be flipped to, "Why did the perpetrator feel the freedom to abuse?"
Since the beginning of time, the Victim has, more often than not, been the one to have to prove all the details; while the perpetrator basically stands there with their mouth hanging open, saying, "What is the problem??!" They feel entitled to their feelings, and actions. You cannot even make this stuff up!!!
One thing I have made my personal goal, is to help empower the Victim to tap into their own strength to change their situation. I DO understand there is more involved; but "every journey starts with a single step."
Step one in tapping into that power is putting the responsibility behind that shame where it belongs - with the person/persons that started your shame journey. Do you even know when it started?
For example - mine started as a small child, when I was sexually abused - I believe it started in my crib (only vague flashbacks, no specifics); and was reinforced over and over, as my true feelings about virtually EVERYTHING got pushed further and further inside.
I've spent the last 30 years, flipping my shame, and empowering myself. I do still get triggered, periodically; but that doesn't mean my progress is null. I just consider myself proof that the process DOES work.
Remember, if you don't start the process, it will NEVER work. Take that first step, and start to "rein in your shame" - even if you don't believe you can, I do; and I am not the only one that believes in you. Start somewhere...
Have a good day, and be safe... #ENDtheSILENCEofVIOLENCE www.ozerministriesinc.com #EtSoV #walkinTHEIRshoes
*October is Domestic Violence Awareness Month. Please share this, no matter what month it is, to help get the word out. The Victim has to make the choice - but, "What If..." they read something you sent them, that makes the difference? #walkinTHEIRshoes
*I will be sharing a "What If..." post on the first Monday, of every month. I would love to share YOUR "what ifs". Please send your "What If..." ideas to Connie J... - firstname.lastname@example.org; or through Ozer, at the website or email, email@example.com.