May. 4, 2020

One Escape Plan Idea... (Connie J...)

Often, when people are in the depths of Domestic Violence, their thought process becomes muddled - trumping EVERY other feeling, or thought process, by pain.

I have mentioned an Escape Plan, before; but here is a basic start of one.

1 - tell a safe person

2 - pack a bag - shot records, kids toys, medications, etc

3 - seek resources

4 - keep records

5 - pet care

 1/3 - If you don't have a Friend, or Family member to help, contact a shelter. They are trained in this, and can give you a plethora of options. 

2 - I recommend possibly a laundry basket full of clothes. Just tuck everything in amongst the clothes - looks normal, right??! (That's what my Friend did.) Be creative. 

4 - Keep a notebook; a safe, secret app on your phone (give it a boring title, like a recipe, or something that your partner would show NO interest in). Write down everything you can remember - every detrimental statement, injury, etc. Remember, abuse is NOT just physical. If it is not safe, in YOUR home, ask a Friend to keep it for you. Even message a friend, and ask them to save it for you, and delete your messages.

5 - Often the perpetrator will use pets as targets to hurt you. Now, not to minimize them; but the "put your oxygen mask on first" goes for them, also. 

 These are just a few ideas, by no means, exhaustive...

Have a good day, and be safe... #EtSoV #ENDtheSILENCEofVIOLENCE