Why They Choose to Stay... (Connie J...)
Very often, the first reaction people have, especially when they hear of a long-term Domestic Violence situation, is the question, "Why didn't they just leave??!"
Very rarely, is it that easy. There are often emotional, or financial "strings", if you will; plus a veritable plethora of other reasons that are often overlooked or minimized.
Are there children or pets involved? Their safety is often used as a tool of manipulation; as well as the perpetrator saying they are going to go to their family, and tell them how ungrateful the Victim is.
Sometimes, it would put them in real physical danger if they try to leave, or even if they do get out - there is no guarantee they are safe. Just watch the news for a few days. There are more and more Domestic cases ending in someone's death.
Are you familiar with story of the Titanic? Domestic Violence is often just like that iceberg.
So, the next time you hear of someone who finally escaped a Domestic Violence situation; rather than asking them that question - how about telling them how you think they are brave for taking that step; or asking if they need anything - from something tangible, to just support. That can make a HUGE difference in their growth from Victim to Survivor.
Thank you, and have a good day, and be safe... #EtSoV #ENDtheSILENCEofVIOLENCE