Observing Family Dynamics... (Connie J...)
My friend flew out to Arizona, recently, and spent a week with family.
For years, they have only had a few hours together, at a time; so this was the longest time together, since two older siblings left for the military within two weeks of each other, in 1970. She was 8...
She went on this trip, to take advantage of the opportunity of embracing the world around her - though not a hiker, the deck-time, alone, was amazing!!! They had mountains right across from the deck, with perfect views of sunrise, and moonrise!!! (It was full-moon time!!!)
She had good, informative conversations with her Brother, and Sister-in-law.
However, the sister chose to sit on the couch, and read, most of the time.
My friend feels her sister did not come home as "complete" as my friend did, because that was her intent, before she left.
My saying all this, is NOT to bag on the sister - I wish for her, the healing my friend has found from her childhood, and believes her Brother has found, also.
Are you aware of just how much your childhood plays a part in the choices YOU make, as an adult?
If you were raised in a Domestic Violence situation, as my friend was, this all affects the choices she has made, every day since.
She went through many years trying to be "the good daughter"; "what happens in the home STAYS in the home", etc.
She finally realized what hooey that was!!!
Have a good day, and be safe... #ENDtheSILENCEofVIOLENCE #EtSoV