How Do You React to Anger??! (Connie J...)
I recently had a situation in which a person was so angry with me, I felt in danger. It ended up okay; but began because I got triggered.
After the initial trigger, I opened my mouth to set a boundary - that's when it took on a sort of life of it's own, and I felt fear.
Growing up with my Father being a Rage-a-holic, you never knew what was going to set him off. Even a statement inquiring, "Where were you?", could set him off, and he would angrily leave, and disappear a few more hours. He would usually walk to his office, about 5 miles away, then call my Mother to come pick him up.
Unfortunately, my reaction, more often than not, is to freeze, and feel fear. At 57, this can get on a person's nerves. I feel like that child, fearing that Daddy will leave, and never come home; or that he will be home, and the yelling will start again. I don't know if he ever hit my Mother; but he WAS verbally abusive, and very close, if he never did. Regardless, it was not the "Norman Rockwell", picture-perfect family we tried to present.
I don't know if I will ever "do anger", well, whether the angry one, or the one someone is angry at; I just know I have to process it, and keep moving forward.
How do you react to anger? Do you freeze, or do you fight back? Are you a rage-a-holic, that only sees red, and doesn't hear anything said to you, until you calm down?
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Have a good day, and be safe... #ENDtheSILENCEofVIOLENCE #EtSoV