#NOMORE "NOW WHAT??!" (Connie J)
You've been in an abusive relationship for over half your life. You finally get so fed up, or in many cases badly hurt, and decide to leave the relationship. Often, all you're left with, if you're lucky, are the clothes on your back.
You need EVERYTHING!!! You go the Agency route, and they work to help get you housing, food, clothing, etc. They set you up with the basics, and you're grateful.
Almost everyone has said, "If you need ANYTHING, please don't hesitate to call." You know they mean well; but you know they have their own lives, and problems to deal with.
You do call a few, and they're nice, and you meet up with them, and you try to talk with them about how you're doing. They tell you, "you need to move on", "forget about the past", "it's over", "you can't keep reliving it", etc. Truth, you know, but you feel stuck. That one question keeps looming over your head, in BIG letters, "NOW WHAT??!"
The world is before you, literally. It IS overwhelming, to say the least. Grab a notebook, and start writing down your thoughts:
1. What do I have?
2. What do I need?
3. What do I WANT to do in 5 minutes? 10 minutes?
Whatever increments you have to break it down into to be able to deal with things, do it.
There is NO formula for your situation. No rules. If you need to talk to Professional, do it - ain't NO shame!!! Just remember YOU hold inside you the tools to move on and to get where you need to be.
It will NOT be easy. But take a look back, and REALLY see where you've come from. So far, you're track record for survival is 100%, right??!
Have a good day, and be safe...