Mar. 31, 2016

#NOMORE Pain Changes People... (Connie J)

I recently saw this on Facebook - "Pain changes people. It makes them trust less, overthink more, and shut people out."

Basically, it messes with your internal filters, causing you to be incapable of seeing your situation clearly. In essence, causing you to fight those that are trying to help you, usually; and reinforcing the abuser telling you they're the "only one that really cares what happens to you", etc.

Until you realize the need to change or even alter the situation you're in, you WILL continue to suffer the consequences. Your change will not necessarily change those, however; but it comes down to what YOU need to do. For you, and even your children.

I quote Daryl, from Ozer, a lot: "Until the pain of staying the same becomes greater than the pain to change, I will stay the same."

If you keep following the same "script" (for lack of a better word) in every relationship you enter, how can you expect to see a difference? You CANNOT change another person. You can only change yourself, and how you react to that other person.

This is all good information for life, in general; but especialy for someone in a Domestic Violence situation. I personally think #NOMORE/#KNOWMORE is more than a catch-phrase; it's a lifestyle.

Are you ready to let your pain motivate you to change your situation for the better, whatever that means you need to do?

Have a good day, and be safe... #NOMORE #KNOWMORE