Dec. 9, 2015

#NOMORE How Can I Help...? (Connie J...)

A lot of times, when someone we know is going through some type of trial - say a death of a person close to them, or financial troubles, or some sort of abusive situation, etc; you just don't know what to do to help.

It's their struggle, so we're not supposed to swoop in and "save the day"; but you want them to know you're aware of their battle, and give them some type of encouragement.

Sometimes, just saying those four little words can make a huge difference in someone's day or life - just lets them know you care, and still leaves them room to ask for help, or whatever they need - even it it's just a "keep me in your prayers/thoughts" response.

I don't think there really is a wrong way to respond - you just have to respect them and follow their lead.

Just don't be co-dependent, and try to do their healing for them. It doesn't work that way. Some people wish it did - they just want a pity party.

There also may be a time where ALL you do angers them - it isn't necessarily your response; remember, they're in a lot of pain, and pain can talk really loud.

Sometimes, all you can do is let them be. They'll be back when they're ready. People just need time to process. DO NOT take it personal, but DO deal with it, when the time presents itself. Holding on to that, will NOT help either of you.

Even if we can't stop what's going on, maybe we can not make the situation worse?

Have a good day, and be safe... #NOMORE #KNOWMORE