Domestic Violence Awareness

Jun. 29, 2020

...your "safe zone", your "Happy Place"...is yours?

Do you feel like you have to walk on eggshells? Are you free to express your opinion on any topic? Do you fear getting hurt, if you don't have everything "just so", when they walk in the door?

Do your children enjoy your partner being out of the house, more than when they're home; because they are more free to be themselves, when they're gone?

Have your animals even learned, usually the hard way, to leave your partner alone, until they've been home awhile; if even then?

I ask again, is your home your respite? Does your neck/back/jaw always get tighter, the closer you get to home?

Is it time to acknowledge that things just "aren't quite right", at home? 

Help is available - but you are the only one able to make those hard choices.

Have a good day, and be safe... #ENDtheSILENCEofVIOLENCE #EtSoV 

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Jun. 26, 2020

I never understood, as a child, why my Mother kept making my Father so angry - why didn't she just let him be? You know, when she asked him those 3 craaaazy words, "Where were you?". It just clicked in my head, one day, that she wasn't the one with the problem - he was. (Even though it was MANY years later, that I identified it as Domestic Violence.)

Why did I feel different from everyone else? I always felt like I was "missing something", almost like some kind of "inside joke", when I would talk to people about my Father. I was an observant child - I knew how to keep my mouth shut, though. I saw a lot more than I talked about.

I did ask a lot of questions. However, it wasn't until I started asking the right questions, to the right people, that I made progress. I like to think it was just time for me to know.

Do you have questions about any relationships in your life? Unfortunately, even in these days of knowledge about EVERYTHING literally at our fingertips, people still don't "see" Domestic Violence.

Sad, isn't it??!

Have a good day, and be safe... #ENDtheSILENCEofVIOLENCE #EtSoV 

Jun. 16, 2020

Did you know, that when you ask a Victim of Domestic Violence, why they didn't leave, that you're making the Victim the source of the problem, and not the abuser?

Usually, the Victim's main reason for not leaving is fear - but the fear of innumerable things:
- their own/children's/animals/family member's safety
- they will have no place to live
- no source of income
- fear of being alone
- their abuser has been their only relationship
- Domestic Violence is all they've ever known - previous generations of DV in family
- that they're a failure because they couldn't "fix" their partner, by "giving up" on the relationship
- of God not forgiving them
- they don't want their kids to be "quitters"
- that their abuser is right - NOBODY else will want them - they're damaged goods, or just not good enough

The blame for the Domestic Violence - the control, manipulation, abuse, intimidation, etc - LIES WITH THE ABUSER!!!

How about we stop blaming the Victim?

Do you have any thoughts on this topic? We would love to hear your input. Please comment below this post.

Thank you, have a good day, and be safe... #EtSoV #ENDtheSILENCEofVIOLENCE


Jun. 9, 2020

We have all been wearing masks for the biggest part of the last 3 months - an end is, basically, not in sight; but I digress. 

A Narcissist has been wearing a mask for so long, it is a part of who they are. It's embedded in their very skin. The end of their tyranny, will only come as people stand up to them.

Though not an easy thing - it can be quite scary; it IS possible. 

Keep in mind, they have NO desire to change; so their "rehabilitation" cannot be your focus.

You need to focus on you, your children, and safety for all.

Reach out - help is available. It is NOT an easy road; but navigable. 

Have a good day, and be safe...

#ENDtheSILENCEofVIOLENCE #EtSoV 

 

 

Jun. 2, 2020

...vs relating to judge...

Hmmm...whaaaa??!

Some people are so narrow-minded, that when they hear someone they know was involved in a Domestic Violence situation; they stop the conversation dead with, "Why didn't you just leave??!"

However, if you listen to them talk about most of the situations in their own lives, they have a repertoire of "quips in their quiver", to pull out and aim at any situation that makes them feel the least bit uncomfortable. 

We need to learn to/encourage to be comfortable (and real) IN the uncomfortable - learn to have those hard conversations. These are the skills I want in MY quiver. 

THAT is how we can make change...

Have a good day, and be safe... #ENDtheSILENCEofVIOLENCE #EtSoV