Domestic Violence Awareness

Nov. 16, 2022

Granted, if you are involved in a Domestic Violence situation, you're probably looking at this, and asking if the writer is nuts!!!

However, it's a legit question - usually there are some good times, although in many cases the abusive times outweigh and overshadow them.

But, when we work really hard to remember the good times, in balance with not forgetting those bad times - this is where our "power to overcome" those bad times begins to grow.

See, it's all in that delicate balance, ie - being aware of how much hate there is in the world, makes the love that exists that much more precious, and powerful.

What can you find to begin to be thankful for? It doesn't have to be something huge - just start the process with something small, like, "We made it through everybody getting off to school with only ONE lost shoe, instead of two whole pairs.". Or, "There was only ONE outburst at dinner, last night; and my significant other didn't make anyone cry."

What are some things YOU can find to be thankful for - look for them, commit them to memory, write them down, if it's safe. Look hard, there IS something there...

Have a good day, and be safe, and thankful... #oneinfour #ithappenstomentoo #dviseverywhere #domesticviolence

*October is Domestic Violence Awareness Month. Please share this post, no matter what month it is, to help get the word out. The Victim has to make the choice - but, "What If..." they read something you sent them, and it just "clicks"?

*I share a "What If..." post, on the first post of every month, and I would love the opportunity to share YOUR "what ifs". Please send your "What If..." ideas to Connie J... - beamererin@yahoo.com; or through Ozer, at the website or email, ozerministries@att.net. 

Nov. 9, 2022

Regardless of your current situation, nothing will ever change until you make the choice to make changes in your life.

If your current relationship isn't what you desire, take some time to figure out:
A - what differences would you like to see?
B - what changes can YOU make to work toward those differences?

Remember YOU cannot change anyone else's choices, no matter how hard you try. This is the caveat wall that many people tend to run into - hard. "Well, if they would only..."; "If you could just..."; "Can't you see what you're doing..."; etc.

No one will change, until they see the need to - regardless of how many people are hurting, as a result.

You just have to figure out what you're willing to tolerate, if they don't change, we all have a "right" to our own choices - but our tolerance of them is an individual choice; especially if there is abuse of any kind involved. NOBODY has a right to abuse anyone else, EVER.

Have a good day, and be safe... #oneinfour #ithappenstomentoo #dviseverywhere #domesticviolence

*October is Domestic Violence Awareness Month. Please share this post, no matter what month it is, to help get the word out. The Victim has to make the choice - but, "What If..." they read something you sent them, and it just "clicks"?

*I share a "What If..." post, on the first post of every month, and I would love the opportunity to share YOUR "what ifs". Please send your "What If..." ideas to Connie J... - beamererin@yahoo.com; or through Ozer, at the website or email, ozerministries@att.net. 

Nov. 3, 2022

...my daughter/son gets involved with a person that acts just like the person I'M with?

...they're not willing to listen to me, anymore than I was willing, to anyone else?

...things get too hard for them to handle - what can I say, to help them see?

...I DO NOT open my mouth, at least, and things get really ugly? Can I live with that?

...I do take the chance to speak, and they separate from me - how will I handle that?

...I could be the one to break the "generational curse" in my family?

Have a good day, and be safe... #oneinfour #ithappenstomentoo #dviseverywhere #domesticviolence

*October is Domestic Violence Awareness Month. Please share this post, no matter what month it is, to help get the word out. The Victim has to make the choice - but, "What If..." they read something you sent them, and it just "clicks"?

*I share a "What If..." post, on the first post of every month, and I would love the opportunity to share YOUR "what ifs". Please send your "What If..." ideas to Connie J... - beamererin@yahoo.com; or through Ozer, at the website or email, ozerministries@att.net. 

Oct. 26, 2022

Are you aware that EVERYONE has them?

I recently had a conversation with someone, and they said they felt the word "Narcissist" was thrown around too much. This person had a conversation with a therapist, specifically asking if they, themselves, were a narcissist.

Their conclusion to the conversation was, no they were not - but everyone can have narcissistic tendencies.The fact that they cared enough to ask, was the game-changer. Most do not.

The fact of the matter is, in most Domestic Violence situations, the narcissist involved does NOT care about their "narcissistic tendencies" - because they don't want to see themselves as the problem. It's ALWAYS someone else - their "blame game" IS strong. They make the choice to let their "Narcissistic Tendencies" rule them - thereby attempting to rule everyone in their path.

There is no "cut and dried" answer- every situation is different. It's all about the choices each individual makes.

Plus, we must remember, that when a Victim says they are a Victim - NOBODY has the right to tell them they aren't, because their feelings are valid. We can't tell anyone that how they feel is wrong - no matter who you are.

I hope this inspires you to keep telling your story; and please reach out for help if you're a Victim OR a Narcissist. There IS hope, and a way to make changes in your life...

Thank you, and have a good day, and be safe... #oneinfour #ithappenstomentoo #dviseverywhere #domesticviolence

*October is Domestic Violence Awareness Month. Please share this post, no matter what month it is, to help get the word out. The Victim has to make the choice - but, "What If..." they read something you sent them, and it just "clicks"?

*I share a "What If..." post, on the first post of every month, and I would love the opportunity to share YOUR "what ifs". Please send your "What If..." ideas to Connie J... - beamererin@yahoo.com; or through Ozer, at the website or email, ozerministries@att.net. 

Oct. 24, 2022

People are often quick to say, "Sorry." But are you working to change the behavior you are sorry for?

This is one example of how the cycle of abuse is perpetuated in a Domestic Violence situation. The perpetrator loses control - usually over something minor, and the Victim is left standing there, in shock, wondering what just happened. Then, sometimes immediately, sometimes not, the perpetrator will be super apologetic, and say phrases like: "I promise that will never happen again." "But I was just mad." "YOU (insert Victim blaming phrase here)." -  and so on.

It happens outside of Domestic Violence relationships, also. Have you ever had a friend say a cutting remark to you, then try and play it off as a joke, when you express how you felt about it? They usually apologize something like this, "I'm sorry you took that personally. I was just joking. I didn't mean anything by it. You're just so sensitive." - etc.

My personal "favorite" is, "I'm just being honest." - WOW!!! WHO are you trying to convince??!

What "apologies-NOT" have you heard?
(Photo from Facebook)

Have a good day, and be safe... #oneinfour #ithappenstomentoo #dviseverywhere #domesticviolence

*October is Domestic Violence Awareness Month. Please share this post, no matter what month it is, to help get the word out. The Victim has to make the choice - but, "What If..." they read something you sent them, and it just "clicks"?

*I share a "What If..." post, on the first post of every month, and I would love the opportunity to share YOUR "what ifs". Please send your "What If..." ideas to Connie J... - beamererin@yahoo.com; or through Ozer, at the website or email, ozerministries@att.net.