Domestic Violence Awareness

Sep. 14, 2020

Do you realize how valuable YOU are - not in dollars and cents - but your presence on this earth?

Did you ALSO know, that some people often base THEIR value of someone, on how much those people actually value themselves?

How much DO you value yourself? Are you, often, an afterthought?

Do you take care of your needs, and build yourself up, before taking care of ANYONE else's needs - even your children's? Your spouse's? The church? The school? Your job?

Those external "needs" will always be there, no matter how much you do to fill them; and if you're not building/filling yourself up, you eventually start to "pour from an empty cup". Everything you try to do for everyone else ends up feeling like "dry heaves". PAINFUL. Miserable. Causing resentment.

Does any of this sound familiar? Do you feel resentment, when people ask for your help?

If your answer is yes, it may be time to self-inventory, and see if you ARE aware of your value. Take some time, every day, even if it's just 5 minutes, to notice your value.

Journal. Read a book you enjoy. Daily affirmations in the mirror, while you brush your teeth. Whatever you need to do, to show YOURSELF how important YOU are, and how much YOU really matter.

I think you'll see a difference in your overall view of your life ‐ and maybe make it a little less stressful? See some changes that may need to happen?

Would love to hear your thoughts on this. Thank you, in advance!!!

Have a good day, and be safe... #ENDtheSILENCEofVIOLENCE #EtSoV

Sep. 7, 2020

...I had left sooner - would my daughter still be talking to me?

...I had pressed charges, the first time I called the police?

...I had learned from my parents, rather than taking it into another generation?

...After my cousin had gotten away, she would have stayed away - would she still be alive?

...I had told someone about him holding the gun to my head, sooner?

..."The System" wouldn't have have let me down, again?

...I had taken the time to heal, after that first bad relationship - before jumping into the next, and the next, and the I wasn't alone?

I am planning a "What If..." post, for the first Monday of every month. Please message me, Connie J... - at, if YOU have any "what ifs" you would like me to include. Thank you.

Have a good day, and be safe... #ENDtheSILENCEofVIOLENCE #EtSoV 

Aug. 31, 2020

What does that mean? I have friends, like me, that have never been married. I, also, have friends that have been married or in relationships that have ended - partners have passed on; others, are a result of Domestic Violence.

Whatever the reason, they are alone. Some are struggling to deal with their previous partners using their children as pawns; while others, are dealing with non/joint-custodial parents abandoning their children, for the custodial parent to "just deal with it". So, on top of their "aloneness", they often struggle financially, adding to the problem.

They lay awake at night, alone, or in other quick relationships, so they don't have to "deal with it" alone; trying to figure finances, juggling schedules - btw, that often, employers are less than sympathetic to their plight.

Alone CAN be very scary. If you were blessed to have had a good relationship, and they passed on, I can only imagine how terrifying alone can be. Even just to go into a restaurant, or a movie alone.

There's a huge difference between being by yourself, being alone, and being lonely. It's all in your mindset. Every day, pick #onething to do for yourself, by yourself.

Now, I understand, with small kids, even going to the bathroom/taking a shower is considered a "luxury". Start small. Keep a book of short stories, or poems, or a magazine in the bathroom (out of reach, of course); and there's always scrolling, too.

For others - take that step. Walk into that restaurant. Go to that movie you've been wanting to see. Like from the musical, Chicago - "I am My Own Best Friend".

I've sat in restaurants, alone, and welcomed a single (usually female) person to sit with me. We do also have to look out for each other.

Remember, just because you are alone, doesn't mean you have to be lonely. It's all in the mindset...

Thank you, have a good day, and be safe... #ENDtheSILENCEofVIOLENCE #EtSoV

Aug. 24, 2020

Alcoholic. Domestic Violence Abuser. Anorexic. Narcissist. Self-mutilator. Bully. Paralyzed by anxiety. Sexually promiscuous. Domestic Violence Victim. Drug addict. Bulimic. Fill-in your own ___.

Is it really one of those, or do you have unprocessed feelings? Anger? Grief? Were you a Victim of one of the items in the previous paragraph, or other horrific scenarios?

I'm in no way justifying the generational "Pay-it-Forward" that happens most often; but very rarely is the way the feeling is expressed, the core issue. Many people just stop there, and say, "This is just the way I am", and proverbially dig in their heels.

However, if you don't deal with the underlying, painful issues from your past; they WILL influence - sometimes subtly, other times blatantly - EVERY choice you make in your life.

I know for many years, I made choices for myself that were not quite the best or most responsible ones I could've made. I have faced many consequences for my actions. I own that, now, and my life still isn't perfect; but I am truly happy, and growing into the person I am to be, every morning.

As with all growth, there will be "growing pains"; but that doesn't mean I'm not making the right choices. I think this was one of the hardest things for me to accept. Life is NOT just black and white; there is far more gray territory, where the two feather in, together. Plus, even positive choices may still have consequences.

Does any of this resonate with you? Please let us know, either here, or on the Facebook page.
Thank you, in advance.

Have a good day, and be safe... #ENDtheSILENCEofVIOLENCE #EtSoV 

Aug. 24, 2020

Join us on Saturday, September 12th for the 5th Annual Artisans Against Domestic Violence Art Exhibit - at the East Palestine Country Club from 4:30-8:30pm!