Domestic Violence Awareness

Jul. 19, 2021

...in a relationship isn't abusive - it turns to abuse when one person tries to force or manipulate another person to think or believe exactly as they do. That's where the trouble starts.

It progresses quickly once the other person caves, and allows themselves to start questioning the little things in their lives. It seeps quietly into your thought process; but it feels different than having an open mind to change.

They start distancing you from other friends and family, usually telling you how "uncomfortable they make me feel".

Then, they show up at your job, or pick a fight with you the night before you work the next day, or tell you things like, "That job doesn't care about you like I do; you should quit and let me take care of you."

The list of possible scenarios is endless, but very subtle. You find yourself thinking more the way they do, and less like you normally would - causing turmoil inside that makes you question every thing you do. They just add TO this, by questioning every little thing you do.

Eventually, your self-esteem is pretty non-existent, and you feel trapped in something you don't know how to get yourself out of.

Does any of this resonate with how you currently feel, or have felt in the past in relationships? One suggestion is you start by grabbing a piece of paper, or your laptop, and start a positive column and negative column and evaluate, and see which column describes your relationship better.

Then you need to decide your next step. Remember, YOU are worthwhile...

Have a good day, and be safe... #ENDtheSILENCEofVIOLENCE www.ozerministriesinc.com #walkinTHEIRshoes #EtSoV

*October is Domestic Violence Awareness Month. Please share this, no matter what month it is, to help get the word out. The Victim has to make the choice - but, "What If..." they read something you sent them, that makes the difference? #walkinTHEIRshoes 

*I will be sharing a "What If..." post on the first Monday, of every month. I would love to share YOUR "what ifs". Please send your "What If..." ideas to Connie J... - beamererin@yahoo.com; or through Ozer, at the website or email, ozerministries@att.net.

Jul. 12, 2021

Do you present your "real self" in every day situations? Be it at work, your house of worship, out with friends, with extended family, etc.

Or are your "Behind the Scenes", a little (or a LOT) different than how you present yourself, publicly?

Why? This probably isn't the first time you have heard this question - either from someone else, or even yourself, honestly.

I encourage you to take some time and contemplate this. Are you ashamed of who you have become, or the life you're living? I, again, ask why?

If the choices you have made in the past, or are currently making for your life, cause you to act differently, or feel a sense of shame, isn't it time to get some answers for yourself?

If you don't believe you deserve the answer to this "Why", I see that as a HUGE red flag. As long as you have breath in your lungs, it is NOT too late for you to make changes in your life, to better yourself.

Have a good day, and be safe... #ENDtheSILENCEofVIOLENCE www.ozerministriesinc.com #walkinTHEIRshoes #EtSoV

*October is Domestic Violence Awareness Month. Please share this, no matter what month it is, to help get the word out. The Victim has to make the choice - but, "What If..." they read something you sent them, that makes the difference? #walkinTHEIRshoes 

*I will be sharing a "What If..." post on the first Monday, of every month. I would love to share YOUR "what ifs". Please send your "What If..." ideas to Connie J... - beamererin@yahoo.com; or through Ozer, at the website or email, ozerministries@att.net.

Jul. 5, 2021

...I had listened to my Counselor...

...I had shown up to Court to file that order of protection...

...They had WANTED to change...

...I had listened to myself and the boundaries I needed...

...I hadn't let external sources manipulate MY choices...

...I had gotten my kids out, sooner...

...I hadn't ignored those early "Red Flags"...

...I hadn't believed I could change THEM...

...I hadn't tried to fit into what THEY wanted ME to be...

...I had/hadn't taken them to my family event...

Have a good day, and be safe... #ENDtheSILENCEofVIOLENCE www.ozerministriesinc.com #walkinTHEIRshoes #EtSoV

*October is Domestic Violence Awareness Month. Please share this, no matter what month it is, to help get the word out. The Victim has to make the choice - but, "What If..." they read something you sent them, that makes the difference? #walkinTHEIRshoes 

*I will be sharing a "What If..." post on the first Monday, of every month. I would love to share YOUR "what ifs". Please send your "What If..." ideas to Connie J... - beamererin@yahoo.com; or through Ozer, at the website or email, ozerministries@att.net.

Jun. 28, 2021

If you think about it, there are literally hundreds of different types of physical "boundaries" - brick walls, barbed-wire or electric fences, moats, high walls, low walls, trees and shrubbery, etc.

There are as many figurative - emotional, etc, boundaries, also. These are primarily to protect your "heart" from getting hurt.

In a Domestic Violence situation, these can possibly help you survive it, mentally. I've heard many people say the physical wounds are actually "easier" to heal from.

But, if you have been able to remove yourself from your abusive situation - DV, or other type - what then?

What protected you, then, only weighs you down as you progress in your healing process. I understand how easy it is to just keep relying on them - but are they really necessary; or are they hindering any possible growth?

Is it time to regroup, and adapt your boundaries to the life you're living, and growing into, now. Boundaries ARE still important; like respect - both from others, and yourself. The ability to say the word NO, if and when you need to.

I read somewhere, "You don't owe anyone an interaction". This screamed volumes to me. It's ok to be by yourself. Your being with others should be because you want to be with them, as much as they want to be with you.

What sort of boundaries do you have? Are they healthy; or are you "Armoring Up" (as Brene' Brown says), to protect yourself?

Have a good day, and be safe... #ENDtheSILENCEofVIOLENCE www.ozerministriesinc.com #walkinTHEIRshoes #EtSoV

*October is Domestic Violence Awareness Month. Please share this, no matter what month it is, to help get the word out. The Victim has to make the choice - but, "What If..." they read something you sent them, that makes the difference? #walkinTHEIRshoes 

*I will be sharing a "What If..." post on the first Monday, of every month. I would love to share YOUR "what ifs". Please send your "What If..." ideas to Connie J... - beamererin@yahoo.com; or through Ozer, at the website or email, ozerministries@att.net.

Jun. 22, 2021

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