Domestic Violence Awareness

Sep. 30, 2022

When I first became aware of my "leftovers" from being raised in a Domestic Violence situation, plus; I wanted to change THE world.

As I dug deeper into my healing, I learned that to make a difference in THE world, I have to get MY world together, first.

I had to deal with MY issues, and allow myself to heal.

So yes, even if you have children, you have to take care of your healing, first - every airline boarding tutorial speaks specifically to parents, regarding an in-air emergency, and the oxygen masks.

You are instructed to make sure you get YOUR mask on, securely, before assisting your child with theirs. The moral of the story, is, if you pass out, you're no good to assist anyone.

This is a good thing to remember in life, also.

Have a good day, and be safe... #listen #ibelieveyou #doyouhear

*October is Domestic Violence Awareness Month. Please share this post, no matter what month it is, to help get the word out. The Victim has to make the choice - but, "What If..." they read something you sent them, and it just "clicks"?

*I share a "What If..." post, on the first post of every month, and I would love the opportunity to share YOUR "what ifs". Please send your "What If..." ideas to Connie J... - beamererin@yahoo.com; or through Ozer, at the website or email, ozerministries@att.net. 

Sep. 28, 2022

Normally, when people think about letting something/someone go - they get caught up in all the negative that is usually associated with that process - and I'm not just talking about Domestic Violence.

There IS a positive side to it, also; and this is where you need to focus, to begin to heal.

Yes, you are letting go of someone/something you love - but you have to weigh the cost of NOT letting go.

Does this sound familiar in your life?

Have a good day, and be safe... #listen #ibelieveyou #doyouhear

*October is Domestic Violence Awareness Month. Please share this post, no matter what month it is, to help get the word out. The Victim has to make the choice - but, "What If..." they read something you sent them, and it just "clicks"?

*I share a "What If..." post, on the first post of every month, and I would love the opportunity to share YOUR "what ifs". Please send your "What If..." ideas to Connie J... - beamererin@yahoo.com; or through Ozer, at the website or email, ozerministries@att.net.

Sep. 12, 2022

When I first began my healing process - I was in a very hurt and angry place. I wanted to rent a billboard and broadcast EVERY hurt, and EVERY perpetrator.

I did not, and I moved on from there - but we have to remember in our efforts to help people in THEIR healing process, to let them be where they are. To feel all their feelings.

Us trying to "dial them back" (which is really to make US more comfortable) will NOT help them.

Besides, the chances of them doing some of the wild ideas they come up with to get "revenge", etc, really are slim - and if they do, it will be their consequences for their own actions.

If we try and "control" them, and "make" them make better choices - haven't they been through that enough in their victimization?

Have a good day, and be safe... #listen #ibelieveyou #doyouhear

*October is Domestic Violence Awareness Month. Please share this post, no matter what month it is, to help get the word out. The Victim has to make the choice - but, "What If..." they read something you sent them, and it just "clicks"?

*I share a "What If..." post, on the first post of every month, and I would love the opportunity to share YOUR "what ifs". Please send your "What If..." ideas to Connie J... - beamererin@yahoo.com; or through Ozer, at the website or email, ozerministries@att.net. 

Sep. 6, 2022

...there was no Domestic Violence Awareness Month? (which is October, every year)

...there was no 24 hour line to call for help? (ie: Christina House Crisis Line - (330)420-0036)

...there were no Community Outreach Events (next year will be our EIGHTH Domestic Violence Awareness Art Exhibit, on August 26, 2023 - save the date, details to follow)

...nobody ever asked you if you were ok, after an incident you survived? (no matter how minor)

...Domestic Violence was never covered by any television shows? (whether talk shows, or dramas)

Would you feel you were worthwhile to fight for? Maybe start one of those events, or found a Hotline, etc; or would you just go your entire life, and die knowing you were a Victim, and that was just your "lot in life"?

Have a good day, and be safe... #listen #ibelieveyou #doyouhear

*October is Domestic Violence Awareness Month. Please share this post, no matter what month it is, to help get the word out. The Victim has to make the choice - but, "What If..." they read something you sent them, and it just "clicks"?

*I share a "What If..." post, on the first post of every month, and I would love the opportunity to share YOUR "what ifs". Please send your "What If..." ideas to Connie J... - beamererin@yahoo.com; or through Ozer, at the website or email, ozerministries@att.net. 

Aug. 31, 2022

Often, when Victims finally make the full realization that they ARE Victims of Domestic Violence, the first response inside their heads is something like, , "How could I be so stupid??! I really thought they loved me!!! How could I let this happen to myself??!", etc.

Shame is why they seem to be so resistant to any assistance that's offered, because it, again often,  develops into, "I did this to myself, so I have to get myself out of this. I don't deserve any better, because it's all my fault.", etc.

Which quickly moves into overwhelm, and depression - which are both utterly paralyzing.

Then, anger - in which they get almost defiant, because, "Why is this happening to me??! This is NOT what I signed up for!!!", etc.

There are so many layers to get through, that, honestly, unless you've done any kind of personal healing, it seems like they're just "choosing to stay in their situation".

Again, this not exhaustive, but maybe giving a little insight into the mind of a Victim.

Have a good day, and be safe... #listen #ibelieveyou #doyouhear

*October is Domestic Violence Awareness Month. Please share this post, no matter what month it is, to help get the word out. The Victim has to make the choice - but, "What If..." they read something you sent them, and it just "clicks"?

*I share a "What If..." post, on the first post of every month, and I would love the opportunity to share YOUR "what ifs". Please send your "What If..." ideas to Connie J... - beamererin@yahoo.com; or through Ozer, at the website or email, ozerministries@att.net.